A STUDY ON MODERN SEXUALITY WAS SENT TO ME. IT GOES INTO SOME STATISTICS FROM STUDIES. IT CONCERNS FLUIDITY IN SEXUALITY—— HETEROSEXUALITY TO HOMOSEXUALITY, LESBIAN SEXUALITY, AND BACK AGAIN TO HETEROSEXUALITY. IT INCLUDES BI-SEXUALITY, AND TRANSGENDER SEXUALITY. IT IS VERY REVEALING ON THE STATE OF SEXUALITY IN THE WESTERN “MODERN” WORLD.
As can be often said about many things--- the world today [in the western world] is not like it was.
Growing up in the 1940s and 1950s and going through High School, sexuality was something not openly taught per se. It was generally the position of "adults" that sexuality should be taught by parents to their children. The words "homosexual" "lesbian" were just not heard at all in the open. All the kids I knew from school, going into "puberty" went into it as "girls" and as "boys" --- we were into life that boys are attracted to girls and girls are attracted to boys. I do not know of any person in my school life, or other schools as we interacted with in events of sports etc. where anyone was attracted to the same sex, or ever thought about "changing sex."
The talk I ever heard from boys was about girls. And from what I could gather girls talked about boys. We had our "nich" of friends consisting of boys and girls, we hung about with after school hours. There was this group here and that group there. Now an again "niches" blended like at birthday parties, where more than just your very close "boy and girl" buddies were invited.
That was the age back then. Boys attracted to girls and girls attracted to boys; we had boy and girl friend pairings. You knew so and so was matched with so and so, as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" --- this was mainly in grade 11 and 12.
With the western world as it is now, I mean it is so different, way different from the 1940s and 1950s. It is like day from night difference. This "modern" stuff of sexuality is so open and so spoken about from grade 1 and up, all over the place, on the news, in schools, on TV programs and movies. The report sent me .... well of course in todays world, there will be such studies.
So is the degeneration of morals and sexuality out in full face. When I look back it really is an age today that is like day and night from the age I grew up in. When all boys and girls were boys and girls, attracted to the opposite sex, letting nature of sex be nature of sex. Again growing up in that world I never knew, or ever heard talk, about boy attracted to boy, or girl attracted to girl, it simply was not there. And knowing how teenage boys speak, in the open or in the secret, to each other, I never heard but boys being attracted to girls, sex hormones rushing along to the opposite sex. The subject of sex fluidity was not there either in that bygone age. Now that does not say there were not some few, very few, somewhere who grew up to be homosexuals and lesbians, but it never came up with anyone in my school or after school neighbourhood friends.
It was back then, an age of way way different than this study sent me.
We had our little “clicks” in school; small groups who were attracted to each other. This one and that one, sometimes clicks blended at say birthday party times. At such parties we often played “spin the bottle”— sit in a circle, a boy spins the bottle, when it stopped the nearest girl to the spout, got the kiss on the lips from the boy; and of course visa versa if the girl spinned the bottle. That was about as much sexuality that went on in that age. It was unheard of that girls would let a boy go all the way with her; in those days you did not even touch the breasts of girls.
It was an age that when the sex hormone kicked in boys were attracted to girls and girls were attracted to boys. In the world of teenage boys the talk was about girls, and from what I could see girls talked about boys.
In all of my school years as a teen, there was never any talk about boys being attracted to boys or girls attracted to girls. I guess some maybe grew up to be homosexual or lesbian, but those words were not even in our vocabulary. And the same for the word “transgender” and in all those teenage years there was nothing said about or anything that would have us knowing “so and so” wanted to be the opposite sex. Everyone I knew in school and out of school were content to be a girl or a boy, the sex they were born.
The sexual revolution, as it is called by many, did not happen until the decade of the 1960s came. The birth control pill was invented; sexuality talk began to come out in the open, sex before marriage began to take form and slowly, or not so slowly, the sexuality of the 1950s was history.
And so sexuality is now so complicated an issue, that long deep studies have to be done, to try and make sense of it all.
Such is the modern western world, with its sexuality, school bullying, school shootings, and teenage suicides—— just ain’t the world it used to be.