David Roach | July 19, 2013



USA Today reported recently on Daniel and Karlee Flores of Salem, Oregon. They’re both 27, and they married shortly after college graduation, assuming they would become young parents. But they never felt financially stable enough to start a family, and now they’re not sure they’ll ever want to have children. As Karlee puts it, “We don’t see it penciling out.” It’s not difficult to find other couples like the Floreses. We all know married people who say they’re not ready for kids or that they never want kids. Some think they can’t afford kids. Others believe children would put a damper on their careers. Others worry about the loss of freedom, think they’re not mature enough, or say they simply don’t like kids.

Yet when a married couple thinks children would be more of a curse than a blessing in their circumstances, they in effect question God’s truthfulness in declaring children a gift. God promises to supply all our needs according to “his riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19) if we will follow His plan for marriage and family—even when we feel like we’re not ready or can’t afford it.

It almost goes without saying that the option for married couples not to have children is a modern phenomenon. For millennia, it was a given that getting married meant having children. With the advent of birth control, much has changed. Fortunately though, the Bible gives much guidance on the matter of childbearing.

First, it makes clear that the norm for married couples is to have children. When God created Adam and Eve, the first command He gave humankind was, “Be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:28), a command He repeated to Noah after the flood (Genesis 9:1). To encourage obedience to the command, God promised that children would be a blessing. As Psalm 127:3 puts it, “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.” Indeed, when Eve bore Cain, she rejoiced, hopeful that God would use the child to reverse the effects of sin (Genesis 4:1; cf. Genesis 3:15). And a much-discussed New Testament passage declares that women “will be saved through childbearing” (1 Timothy 2:15). Though scholars debate the precise meaning of this verse, it is clear that God is promising blessing through the bearing of children.


THE MEANING OF 1 TIMOTHY 2:15 HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HAVING CHILDREN;  IT IS TO DO "THE" CHILD  BIRTH....JESUS THE CHRIST - Keith Hunt


Of course, the command to be fruitful and multiply does not imply that every married couple must have as many children as biologically possible. Even in the Bible, godly saints didn’t do that, as for example when Christian husbands went to war or on protracted missionary journeys. And there are times when a couple is unable medically to produce children. In such cases, they bear no fault. Hannah, Elizabeth, Sarah, and Rebekah are examples of women who followed the Lord but faced infertility. Still, children are the norm.

In fact, when God granted children to the formerly infertile in Scripture, their reaction was celebration at the joy of bringing a new life into the world. Upon giving birth to Isaac, Sarah, who formerly laughed with scorn at the thought of having a child, smiled with joy (Genesis 21:6-7). Elizabeth and Hannah also praised the Lord when they had children (Luke 1:251 Samuel 2:1-10).

Yes, sometimes having children does mean stepping into uncertainty, but the essence of biblical faith is taking God at His Word when we can’t see how it’s going to work out. So if you’re a married Christian who’s putting off children, the Bible urges you to give parenthood a try. When you look into the face of your new baby boy or girl, don’t be surprised if your reservations vanish and you find yourself saying with Hannah, “My heart exults in the Lord” (1 Samuel 2:1).

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NOW  FOR  CHRISTIAN COUPLES......YES  THE  OVERALL  TEACHING  IN  THE  BIBLE  FOR  CHRISTIAN  COUPLES  IS  THAT  WHEN  MARRYING  THEY  SHOULD  HAVE  THE  MIND-SET  OF  WANTING  CHILDREN.  TO  SHARE  LIFE  TOGETHER  AS  A  FAMILY  WITH  CHILDREN  IS  A  MINIATURE  KINGDOM  OF  GOD.  CHILDREN  DO  INDEED  DEVELOP  MANY  ATTRIBUTES  IN  A  CHRISTIAN  -  LOVE,  CORRECT  DISCIPLINE,  GIVING,  SERVING,  TEACHING,  FORGIVING,  PATIENCE,  GUIDANCE,  AND  WHATEVER  ELSE  IS  CHARACTER  BUILDING.

SO  YES  I  WOULD  HAVE  TO  AGREE  WITH  THE  AUTHOR.... FOR  CHRISTIANS,  GETTING  MARRIED  SHOULD  MEAN  YOU  ARE  HAPPY  IF  CHILDREN  COME  ALONG.  FOR  CHRISTIANS  TO  SIT  DOWN  AND  SAY,  "WELL  WE  CAN NOT  AFORD  IT  EVER."  IS  PUTTING  A  MIGHTY  BIG  STRETCH  ON  "EVER."  FOR  CHRISTIANS  TO  SAY,  "CHILDREN  WILL  GET  IN  THE  WAY  OF  OUR  LIFE  GOALS"  IS  PUTTING  A  BIG  STRETCH  ON  "LIFE  GOALS"  AND  IS  ALSO  TO  BE  BLUNT ....  BEING  SELFISH.

TO  BE  WISE  AS  TO  WHEN  TO  HAVE  CHILDREN  IS  WISE,  AND  GOD  DECLARES  WISDOM  TO  BE  LIKE  GOLD.

AS  THE  AUTHOR  SAID,  SOME  FOR  WHATEVER  REASON  CANNOT  PRODUCE  BIOLOGICAL  CHILDREN,  GOD  UNDERSTANDS  THAT  CAN  HAPPEN.

THEN  LET  ME  ADD  THIS,  IF  A  CHRISTIAN  COUPLE  CANNOT  PRODUCE BIOLOGICAL  CHILDREN,  THERE  ARE  LOTS  OF  CHILDREN  WAITING  TO  BE  ADOPTED;  OF  COURSE  WISDOM  NEEDS  TO  BE  USED  IN  ADOPTING.

OVERALL  THEN,  MY  JUDGMENT  IS  THAT  A  CHRISTIAN  COUPLE  IN  MARRIAGE  SHOULD  DESIRE  [EVERYTHING  NORMAL]  TO  HAVE  CHILDREN.

I  REALIZE  IN  THE  WORLD  COUPLES  TODAY  DESIRE  THEY  DO  NOT  WANT  CHILDREN,  AND  USUALLY  FOR  LIFE  GOAL  PURPOSES,  HENCE  A  LARGE  AMOUNT  OF  SELFISHNESS; THEY  ARE  NOT  IN  TUNE  WITH  GOD  AND  HIS  OVERALL  TEACHING  OF  MARRIAGE  AND  FAMILY.  BUT  THEN  AGAIN  THE  WORLD  IS  OUT-OF-STEP  ON  MANY  THINGS  OF  THE  LORD,  SUCH  AS  SEXUALITY  IS  ONLY  FOR  HUSBAND  AND  WIFE  IN  MARRIAGE. 

CHRISTIANS  ARE  TO  HAVE  A  MUCH  DIFFERENT  MIND-SET  ON  MANY  THINGS  THAN  THOSE  IN  THE  UN-CONVERTED  WORLD.


Keith Hunt