LATEST ON SEX AS OF 2010
From Dr. Amen's book: "Change Your Brian Change Your Body"
THE PASSION SOLUTION
Make Love to Recharge Your Brain and Body
Sex... what else is free, fun, low calorie, and exercise?
—-Barbara Wilson, M.D.,
NEUROLOGIST AND PAIN SPECIALIST
The symbol for love is a heart. "I love you with all my heart." "I give my I heart to you." "My heart aches when you-are gone." How silly, because I most of love really happens in the Jell-O-like mass of tissue between your ears. But it just doesn't sound very romantic to say: "I love you with all my brain." "I give my brain to you." That sounds like a weird science experiment. Or, "My brain aches when you are gone."
It is your brain that is the organ of loving, learning, and behaving, and as such, at about three pounds, your brain is the largest sex organ in your body. And in this case, size really does matter. Research clearly tells us that being in a loving, healthy, affectionate relationship helps you be happier, live longer, have a better body, and even help to protect you from depression and memory problems. Having a healthy sex life is a key to having a better brain and body.
WHO WANTS TO LIVE TO A HUNDRED?
In August 1982, during my internship year on the sterile surgical floor at the Walter Reed Army Medical Center in Washington, D.C., Jesse was discharged from the hospital. He had been admitted for an emergency hernia operation two weeks earlier and there had been some minor compHcations. I remember Jesse so vividly now because he was one hundred years old but talked and acted like a man thirty years younger. Mentally, he seemed every bit as sharp as any patient I had talked to that year or since. He and I developed a special bond, because unlike the surgery interns who spent a maximum of five minutes in his room each day, I spent hours over the course of his hospitalization talking to him-about his life. The other interns were excited to learn about the latest operating techniques. I was interested in Jesse's story, and I wanted to know about Jesse's secrets for longevity and happiness.
Jesse had his one hundredth birthday in the hospital, and it was quite an event. His wife, actually his second one who was three decades younger, planned the event with the nursing staff. There was great love, playfulness, and physical affection between Jesse and his wife. Clearly, they still had the "hots" for each other.
Just before his discharge from the hospital, he saw me at the nurses' station writing notes. He enthusiastically waved me over to his room. His bags were packed and he was dressed in a brown suit, a white shirt, and a blue beret. He looked deeply into my eyes as he quietly asked me, "How long, Doc?"
"How long what?" I answered.
"How long before I can make love to my wife?"
I paused and he continued in a hushed voice, "You want to know the secret to live to a hundred, Doc? Never miss an opportunity to make love to your wife. How long should I wait?"
A slow smile came over my face. "I think a week or so and you should be fine. Be gentle at first." Then I gave him a hug and said, "Thank you. You have given me hope for many years to come."
Science finally caught up to Jesse twenty-five years later. Now there is a wealth of research connecting healthy sexual activity to longevity, as well as physical and mental health. While there are many well-known ingredients to a long life—good genes, a positive outlook, a curious mind, and exercise— frequent sexual activity is one of them too. In this chapter, I will illustrate the link between sexual frequency, sexual enjoyment, longevity, and mental and physical health.
[ACTION STEP If you want to live longer, get sick less often, feel more joy, experience less pain, and have better fertility, have more sex (preferably with a loving and committed partner)]
[FOR CHRISTIANS SEX IS FOR MARRIAGE ONLY. GOD CREATED SEX AND THE LATEST RESEARCH ON THE BENEFITS OF SEX IS NOW KNOWN BY SCIENTISTS IN WAYS NOT UNDERSTOOD AS IT IS TODAY (2010). DR AMEN'S CHAPTER IN HIS BOOK IS VERY INSTRUCTIVE AS TO THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF HEALTHY SEX. YES DR. AMEN'S BOOK "CHANGE THE BRAIN CHANGE THE BODY" I HIGHLY RECOMMEND]. Keith Hunt
HEALING: SEX IS ONE OF THE BEST MEDICINES
Many studies have investigated the relationship between healthy sexual activity and physical health. The potential dangers of sexual activity, including sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies, have been widely reported, and rightly so. However, less publicized studies suggest that thoughtful sexual activity with a committed partner improves well-being by enhancing longevity, immune system function, joy, pain management, and sexual and reproductive health. These studies illustrate that sexual activity may be a preventive measure against the two leading causes of death in the United States: heart disease and cancer. Below are some of the ways sex can improve your health.
Learning how to enhance the largest sex organ in the body (the brain) and using it well to intimately connect with others may add years to your life and is likely to make you much happier. Serious research on sexuality began in the United States in the 1950s by Alfred Kinsey. He reported that sex reduces stress, and that people who have fulfilling sex lives are less anxious, less violent, and less hostile. Current research bears this out, as physical touch increases the hormone oxytocin, which boosts trust and lowers Cortisol levels, the hormone of chronic stress.
In a study done at Duke University, researchers followed 252 people over twenty-five years to determine the lifestyle factors important in influencing life span. Sexual frequency and past and present enjoyment of intercourse were three of the factors studied. For men, frequency of intercourse was a significant predictor of longevity. While frequency of intercourse was not predictive of longevity for women, those who reported past enjoyment of intercourse had greater longevity. This study suggested a positive association between sexual intercourse, pleasure, and longevity.
In 1976, research was published in Psychosomatic Medicine that concluded that an inability to reach orgasm may have a negative impact on women's hearts. Only 24 percent of women in the healthy control groujueported sexual dissatisfaction, while 65 percent of the women who had heart attacks reported trouble with sex. In this study, the two most common causes of dissatisfaction in women were due to impotence and premature ejaculation in their husbands. Sexual health is not just an individual issue. It affects both parties satisfaction and overall health.
[ACTION STEP For men, studies show that engaging in sex two, three, or more times per week can lower the risk for heart attack, stroke, and death]
A Swedish study found increased risk of death in men who gave up sexual intercourse earlier in life. The research was done on four hundred elderly men and women, At age seventy, they were given a survey of their sexual activity and then followed over time. Five years later, the death rates were significantly higher among the men who ceased sexual activity at earlier ages.
A daring group of researchers from Queens University in Belfast, Ireland, included a question about sexual activity in a long-term study of health. The authors studied nearly a thousand men between the ages of forty-five and fifty-nine living in or near Caerphilly, Wales. They recorded the frequency of sexual intercourse each week and within that month. The researchers divided the men into three groups: high orgasm frequency (those who had sex twice or more a week), an intermediate group, and low orgasm frequency (those who reported having sex less than monthly). The men were monitored again ten years later. Researchers found that the death rate from all causes for the least sexually active men was twice as high as that of the most active group. The death rate in the intermediate group was 1.6 times greater than that for the active group.
Many questions come to mind with this type of study, such as "Is it the orgasm that is healing? Or the touch and physical and emotional connection that comes with intercourse? Does poor health decrease sexual activity? Do other factors such as lack of exercise, alcohol, and/or depression cause both poor health and less sexual activity?" The researchers found that the robustness of their findings persisted even after adjusting for differences in age, social class, smoking, blood pressure, and evidence of existing coronary heart disease at the initial interview. This suggests a more likely protective role of sexual activity.
The researchers wrote, "The association between frequency of orgasm and mortality in the present study is at least-—-if not more—convincing on epidemiological and biological grounds than many of the associations reported in other studies.and deserves further investigation to the same extent. Intervention programs could also be considered, perhaps based, on the exciting, 'At least five a day' campaign aimed at increasing fruit and vegetable consumption—although the numerical imperative may have to be adjusted."
[ACTION STEP Looking for a physical activity that burns calories, provides health benefits, and is a lot of fun? Sex is the answer]
In a 2001 follow-up study, this same research group found that having sex three or more times a week reduced the risk in males of having a heart attack or stroke by half. If a drug company came up with a medicine that performed as well, their stock would soar through the roof on Wall Street. Coauthor of the study Shah Ebrahim, Ph.D., underscored the results by saying, "The relationship found between frequency of sexual intercourse and mortality is of considerable public interest." There is truth to the saying that an apple a day keeps the doctor away. It may also be true that an orgasm a day keeps the coroner away.
Weight Loss, Overall Fitness
One of the most compelling benefits of sex comes from studies of aerobic fitness. It has been estimated that the act of intercourse burns about 200 calories, the equivalent of running vigorously for thirty rhinutes. Most couples average about twenty-four minutes for lovemaking. During orgasm, both heart rate and blood pressure typically double, all under the influence of oxytocin. Muscular contractions during intercourse work the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck, and thorax. Men's Health magazine has gone so far as to call the bed the single greatest piece of exercise equipment ever invented.
More Youthful Appearance
Regular orgasms can even help you look younger. According to research done by David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, making love three times a week in a stress-free relationship can make you look ten years younger. Dr. Weeks studied more than 3,500 men and women between the ages of 18 and 102. He concluded that genetics were only 25 percent responsible for how young we look—the rest is due to behavior. In his study, a panel of judges viewed the participants through a one-way mirror and then guessed the age of each subject. A group of men and women whose ages were underestimated by seven to twelve years were labeled superyoung. Among these "superyoung" people, one of the strongest correlates of youthful appearance was an active sex life. They reported having sex at least three times per week, in comparison with the control group's average of twice a week. The superyoung were'also found to be more comfortable and confident regarding their sexual identity.
Dr. Weeks, whose fmdings are published in Superyoung: The Proven Way to Stay Young Forever, says this is partly because sexual activity in women helps to trigger the production of a human growth hormone that helps them maintain their youthful looks. Sexual activity also pumps oxygen around the body, boosting the circulation and the flow of nutrients to the skin. Moreover, being in a sexual relationship can in itself be a good incentive to look after your appearance and stay in shape.
Higher Youth Hormone Levels (DHEA, Estrogen, and Testosterone)
Dr. Winnifred Cutler, a specialist in behavioral endocrinology, reported that women who enjoy regular sex had significantly higher levels of estrogen in their blood than women experiencing either infrequent sex or no sex at all. The benefits of estrogen include a healthy cardiovascular system, lower bad cholesterol, higher good cholesterol, increased bone density, and smoother skin. There is also growing evidence that estrogen is beneficial to brain function, as noted earlier.
Another important hormone that.seems to be affected by sexual activity is DHEA. Before orgasm, thelevel of DHEA spikes in the body to several times higher than normal. DHEA is believed to improve brain function, balance the immune system, help maintain and repair tissue, promote healthy skin, and possibly improve cardiovascular health.
Testosterone is increased through regular sexual activity. Testosterone can help strengthen bones and muscles, and is also beneficial to a healthy heart and brain. The risk for Alzheimer's disease is twice as high for people with lower testosterone levels. Low testosterone levels are also associated with a low libido. From this connection one could imply that if you are not interested in sex, your memory may be in jeopardy as well.
Boosted Immune Function
According to gynecologist Dr. Dudley Chapman, orgasms boost infection-fighting cells by up to 20 percent. Psychologists at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that students who had regular sexual activity had one-third higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA), an antibody that boosts the immune system and can help fight colds and flu. In one study it was reported that women who perform oral sex on their mates are less likely to suffer from preeclampsia, a condition that causes a dangerous spike in women's blood pressure during pregnancy. Plus, sperm carries TGF beta, a molecule that can boost the activities of her natural killer cells, which attack the rogue cells that give rise to tumors.
A study from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality conducted by Dr. Ted Mcflvenna looked at the sex lives of ninety thousand American adults and found that sexually active people take fewer sick leaves and enjoy life more.
Potential Cancer-Fighting Agent
A study conducted by Graham Giles from Australia concluded that the more often men ejaculate between the ages of twenty and fifty, the less likely they are to develop prostate cancer. A'study published by the British Journal of Urology International asserted that men in their twenties can reduce by one-third their chance of getting prostate cancer by ejaculating more than five times a week.
Researchers have suggested that sexual expression may lead to a decreased risk of cancer because of the increase in levels of oxytocin and DHEA, which are associated with arousal and orgasm in women and men. A 1989 study found increased frequency of sexual activity correlated with a reduced incidence of breast cancer among women who had never had a child. The study examined fifty-one French women who were diagnosed with breast cancer less than three months prior to the interview. They were matched with ninety-five controls. A higher risk of breast cancer also correlated with lack of a sex partner and rare sexual intercourse, defined as less than once a month.
Better Sexual and Reproductive Behavior
Research done by Dr. Winnifred Cutler indicated that women who have intercourse with a male partner at least once a week are likely to have more regular menstrual cycles than women who are celibate or who have infrequent sex. In same-sex couples, women who engaged in sexual activity at least three times per week also had more regular cycles. In her "White Paper for Planned Parenthood," Dr. Cutler reported that sexual and reproductive health of both women and men is influenced by their sexual activity. She reports that regular sex can have positive effects on reproductive health. Here are several examples.
Frequent sexual activity may enhance fertility. Studies of menstrual cycle variability and frequency of intercourse have demonstrated that regular intimate sexual activity with a partner promotes, fertility by regulating menstrual patterns.
[ACTION STEP Before you opt for expensive fertility treatments, try having more sex]
Menstrual cycle regularity
A series of studies found that-women who engaged in intercourse at least once a week had cycle lengths that were more, regular than those of women who had sex sporadically or who were celibate.
Relief of menstrual cramps
Nine percent of 1,900 women stated that they masturbated in the previous three months to relieve menstrual cramps.
A review of fifty-nine studies that were written between the years 1950 and 1996 concluded that sexual activity during pregnancy does not harm the fetus, as long as there are no other risk factors involved, such as sexually transmitted diseases. In addition, some research has shown that sexual activity throughout pregnancy may serve as protection against early delivery, especially during the third trimester (between the twenty-ninth and thirty-sixth weeks). Of more than 1,800 women, excluding those who could not have sex for medical reasons, preterm delivery was significantly reduced in the women who had intercourse late in their pregnancy.
The prostate gland is responsible for producing some of the secretions in semen; sometimes the prostate becomes inflamed and painful (prostatitis). In single men who had prostatitis, over 30 percent who masturbated more frequently reported marked or moderate improvement of their symptoms. In addition, there is a suggestion that frequent ejaculation may help prevent chronic nonbacterial infections of the prostate.
Sexual release can help people go to sleep. Orgasm causes a surge in oxytocin and endorphins that may act as a sedative. One study found that 32 percent of 1,866 U.S. women who reported masturbating in the previous three months did so to help go to sleep. As most women know, men often go to sleep shortly after having sex.
Studies have shown that orgasms can help treat some types of pain. Research by Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk of Rutgers University, New Jersey, found that through regular orgasm women had higher pain thresholds when suffering from conditions ranging from whiplash to arthritis. Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain. In women, sex also promotes the production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.
Dr. Whipple's research identified the female G-spot, the vaginal "on switch" for female arousal, on the front inside wall of the vagina, opposite the clitoris. She showed that gentle pressure to this area raised pain thresholds by 40 percent and that during orgasm women could tolerate up to 110 percent more pain. In brain imaging research to understand this finding, Dr. Whipple found that during peak arousal, the painkilling center deep in the brain is activated. Signals from this part of the brain give orders to the body to release endorphins and corticosteroids. These chemicals help to temporarily numb the pain from many different causes. Activating this region also has a calming effect and can reduce anxiety.
Research suggests that when your partner says, "Not tonight, honey, I have a
headache " you can help her with a loving roll in the sack. A study from the
Southern Illinois University School of Medicine found that having an orgasm
could help alleviate the pain from migraines. Of the fifty-two migraine suf
ferers used in the study, sixteen reported considerable relief after an orgasm
and another eight had their headaches completely gone. Since 2001, a couple
of case studies reported that orgasm did help them with pain relief. An ear
lier study of eighty-three women who suffered from migraine headaches
showed that orgasm resulted in at least some relief for more than half of them.
Using orgasm to help alleviate migraine pain is not as reliable as prescription
medications, but it does work much faster, is cheaper, has fewer side effects,
and is more fun. .
Treatment of Depression
Orgasms can also have an antidepressant effect. Orgasms cause intense increased activity in the deep limbic parts of the brain, which settle down after
[ACTION STEP If you have symptoms of depression, regular sexual activity may help alleviate them]
sex. Antidepressants tend to calm activity in the limbic parts of the brain as well. People who engaged in regular sexual activity experience less depression, and orgasm frequency may be one reason why.
When a nlan has an orgasm, an area in the limbic system, called the meso-diencephalic junction, is activated. Cells in the region are known to produce some of the pleasure chemicals discussed earlier. At the same time, researchers have shown that the amygdala, a fear center in the brain, becomes less active in men's brains during sex. The region also is involved in vigilance, so animals and people may need to shut down that part of the brain to avoid getting distracted during sex. Calming the fear center might also help with a man's sense of commitment. Prostaglandins, fatty acids found in semen, are absorbed by the vagina and may have a role in modulating female hormones and moods.
Gordon Gallup, a psychologist at the State University of New York Albany, headed a study that found women whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners did. One theory put forth was that prostaglandin, a hormone found in semen, maybe absorbed in the female genital tract, thus modulating female hormones.
Other research has indicated that high sexual activity is associated with lower risk and incidence of depression and suicide. A Canadian study that examined the correlation between sexuality and mental health found that celibacy was correlated with high scores on depression and suicidality indexes.
Improved Sense of Smell
After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges. This, in turn,, causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, its smell center, improving one's sense of smell.
The Key to Health
Regular sexual contact, especially with a committed partner, helps to keep your body and brain healthy. Do not use excuses, such as you are too tired or too busy for physical affection. Also, try to avoid spending too much time at work at the exclusion of social endeavors. A lack of relationships sets up humans to be depressed or to seek pleasure through solitary sexual activities, such as on the Internet, or to turn to drugs, alcohol, gambling, or other addictions, which are not good for the brain. Men and women need touching, eye contact, and sexual connection to stay healthy. When you feel loved, nurtured, cared for, supported, and intimate, you are much more likely to be happier and healthier. You have a much lower risk of getting sick and, if you do, a much greater chance of surviving.
There is happy news for people who have more activity in the bedroom than in their bank accounts. After evaluating the levels of sexual activity and happiness in sixteen thousand people, Dartmouth College economist David Blanchflower and Andrew Oswald of the University of Warwick in England found that sex so positively influenced happiness that they estimated increasing intercourse from once a month to once a week is equivalent to the happiness generated by getting an additional $50,000 in income for the average American.
In addition, they reported that despite what most people think, people who make more money do not necessarily have moire sex. There was no difference, in their study, between sexual frequency and income levels. The happiest people in the study were married people who had, on average, 30 percent more sex than single folks. The economists estimated that a lasting marriage equated to the happiness generated by an extra $100,000 annually, while divorce depleted an estimated $66,000 annually worth of happiness. Taking care of your marriage can save you lots of money.
SUMMARY OF SOME OF THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF REGULAR SEXUAL CONTACT FOR WOMEN
More regular menstrual cycles Lighter periods .
Better bladder control
Increased youth-promoting hormone DHEA
Weight control—sex burns about 200 calories per half hour; yoga, 114; dancing (rock), 129; walking (3 mph), 153; weight training, 153.
More fertile menstrual cycles
Fewer colds and flu
Staying in shape
Increased testosteronetand estrogen
SUMMARY OF SOME OF THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF REGULAR SEXUAL CONTACT FOR MEN
Increased heart rate variability (a sign of heart health and a calmer mind)
Improved heart cardiovascular function
(three times a week decreases risk of heart attack or stroke by half)
Higher testosterone levels (stronger bones and muscles)
Improved prostate function
TREATING LOW LIBIDO
As you can see, scientific research demonstrates a positive correlation between regular sexual activity and physical and mental health. I gave a lecture on this topic to the Samueli Women & Wellness Conference in Southern California and a married woman came up to me afterward and said that she would rather be doing anything than having sex. She asked me what should she do, as she did not want to die early.
I replied, "There are many ways to stay healthy and live a long life, such as a healthy diet, exercise, mental exercise, supplements, and having an optimistic outlook, but I would hate to see you miss out on the added benefit of a healthy sex life for you and your husband. Low libido is often associated with low testosterone levels, low estrogen levels, depression, a conflicted marriage, or past emotional trauma. Finding and fixing the problem may give you many rewards."
USE YOUR BRAIN TO IMPROVE YOUR BODY'S SEXUAL RESPONSE
In my book The Brain in Love, I wrote about Tantric sexual practices, and was fascinated by the concept, which involves using the mind—the brain, that is-— to enhance sexual response and intimacy. I wanted to experience it for myself and thought it would be a wonderful way to enhance my relationship with my wife, Tana. Finding someone whom my wife and I both trusted enough to discuss such personal things took quite a bit of research. In the end, TJ Bartel, an advanced certified Tantra educator, became our teacher. Our experience with him was amazing and transformative. It deepened our relationship in ways we couldn't even have imagined. TJ was such a wonderful teacher that I felt as if I had to share his knowledge with everyone I knew.
One of the basic beliefs of Tantra is that everybody has energy—in particular, sexual energy—within their body and that everybody has the potential to channel that energy within the body and direct it to others. By using your brain, you can learn to harness your sexual energy-and circulate it throughout your body to heighten your body's response, intensify the love-making experience, and increase the healing power of sex.
When I first heard about moving energy, I thought, "What the heck does that mean? How do you move energy?" But there are many practices in both Eastern and Western religions that practice this. Meditation is a way to move energy. What we see in our brain imaging work is that when people pray or meditate, they dramatically move the energy in their brain to the most human, thoughtful part of the brain. I once did a brain imaging study with a professor from the University of California, Irvine, on qigong, which is the practice of mastering your energy within yourself and directing it to others in a healing way. The results were astounding. We found that the qigong master was able to direct energy at other people and immediately change their brainwave patterns and increase blood flow to their brain.
For most people, sexual activity is a time when they turn off their brain and focus on the feelings in their body. But with Tantric sex, you use your brain to control and enhance what your body is feeling for the ultimate brain-body connection. If you would like to learn more about Tantric sex and how to move sexual energy, check out my book The Brain in Love or the six-audio CD set I did with TJ Barrel called Create More Passion Tonight They are both available at www.amenclinics.com.
SUPPLEMENTS THAT MAY INSPIRE PASSION
The following supplements can fuel passion and increase your enjoyment of sexual activity.
Fish oil is a wonderful supplement to enhance your love life. It helps
with mood and joint pain, so you maybe happier, less irritable, and
subsequently feel more sexual, plus be more limber.
If you tend to be anxious and worried, 5-HTP can help to boost serotonin and give you more emotional freedom and energy to put toward your sex life.
If you tend to have low energy and feel negative, SAMe may help to boost your energy and mood, and it also helps with joint pain.
Ginkgo biloba boosts blood flow to all organs in the body.
Panax ginseng can increase energy, decrease stress, and improve endurance.
SEXY FOODS TO TRY FOR MORE PASSION
Almonds enhance phenylethylamine (PEA), a chemical that boosts
the alerting response in the brain that something fun is about to
Apples sweeten the breath.
Asparagus, rich in vitamin E, is essential for hormone building.
Avocados have PEA, Bg, and potassium.
Bananas contain the bromelain en2ryme, which is believed to improve male libido.
Cabbage helps to increase circulation.
Celery contains androsterone, a hormone released by male sweat that turns women on.
Chili peppers have capsaicin, which stimulates nerve endings and raises heart rate.
Chocolate increases PEA and theobromine, a substance similar to caffeine.
Cheese actually contains more PEA than chocolate.
Eggs have B vitamins that help balance hormones.
Figs are high in amino acids that increase libido.
Garlic contains allicin, an ingredient that increases blood flow to the sexual organs.
Nutmeg significantly increases sexual activity in rats, so if you are married to a rat, it may be helpful....
Any brain problems
Lack of sleep
The Passion Solution - Passion Boosters
Effectively treating any brain problems
Adequate sleep (at least seven hours)
Freedom from alcohol
Journaling when sad or anxious, treatment
Kill the ANTs (automatic negative thoughts)
Natural pain relief (SAMe, fish oil, 5-HTP)
Sexy scents for men: lavender, pumpkin pie, black licorice, doughnuts, orange, cheese pizza, roast beef, cinnamon buns
Sexy scents for women: baby powder, cucumber, black licorice, lavender, pumpkin pie
Scents for relaxation (for those who need calm before sex): sandalwood, marjoram, lemon, chamomile, bergamot
Scents for stimulation (for those who need to be activated before sex): jasmine, ylang-ylang, rose, patchouli, peppermint, clove
GOD MADE MAN AND WOMAN; GOD INVENTED SEX; HE SAID TO THE MAN "IT IS NOT GOOD THAT MAN SHOULD BE ALONE."
THE OVERALL TEACHING OF THE BIBLE IS THAT THE HUGE VAST MAJORITY SHOULD GET MARRIED.
CELIBACY IS TAUGHT ONLY FOR THOSE WHO CAN RECEIVE IT (VERY VERY FEW) TO DO GOD'S WORK - SEE JESUS' WORDS IN MAT.19:4-12. PAUL IT SEEMS WAS AN EXAMPLE OF NOT BEING MARRIED AND DOING GOD'S WORK. BUT HE WAS AN EXCEPTION TO THE NORM. THERE IS NO TEACHING OF A CELIBATE PRIESTHOOD IN THE NEW TESTAMENT [EVEN THE ROMAN CATHOLIC POPE HAS ADMITTED THAT].
WE DO HAVE PAUL "FOR THIS PRESENT DISTRESS" [1 COR. 7:26 AND CONTEXT] ADVISING PEOPLE NOT TO MARRY...BUT LET ME GIVE EMPHASIS, PAUL'S ADVISE WAS "FOR THIS PRESENT DISTRESS."
IF FOR SOME REASON YOU FIND YOURSELF NOT MARRIED OR DIVORCED, AND REALLY NOT LOOKING TO MARRY AGAIN, BY OBEYING ALL THE HEALTH LAWS YOU WILL FIND ON THIS WEBSITE AND MY BLOG; YOU CAN STILL LIVE A LONG LIFE. MY DAD LOST MY MOTHER IN DEATH WHEN HE WAS 74 YEARS OLD [AFTER 53 YEARS OF MARRIAGE] AND MY DAD IS STILL LIVE AS I ENTER THIS STUDY IN 2013, AT AGE 93.