FROM ONE OF MY READERS:
With what we know now, I think this also needs to be said:
There are many who identify as being homosexuals who claim that they never remember having any heterosexual tendencies in their lives. They ask the question, "Why would I choose to be gay?" This is a red herring to be sure, since the question that should be asked is, "Did I choose to be gay?" It's important to define what is meant by choice.
It's rather uncommon, if not altogether impossible, for someone to wake up one day and say, "I think that I will be a homosexual" and lose all heterosexual inclinations. Choices are often blind and incremental, and many unconscious choices may be made that eventually result in homosexual feelings by the time a person is able to feel arousal. Thus, it is possible that it's true that some people can't ever remember feeling heterosexual while it can also be true that their orientation is by choice.
The environment has a lot to do with how a person's sexual identity develops. We need to be sensitive to these peoples' claims and acknowledge that they may be telling the truth. Maybe they never remember having sexual feelings other than what they've described. At the same time, this doesn't mean that choice wasn't involved. Choices can be made consciously and they can also be made unknowingly. This may not sound logical, but psychology has established that this happens.
Now that choice is better defined, what about change? If people don't suddenly and completely receive homosexual impulses, then it isn't realistic for them to suddenly and completely experience only heterosexual ones. This is why many mock the idea of a gay "cure", and they also mock the therapy groups that attempt to provide treatment.
What should we make of this?
First, the dichotomy involves the logical fallacy of the false dilemma, or an either/or situation. The popular portrayal of Sexual Orientation Change Efforts (SOCE) is either A) instantaneous and complete transformation or B) no change at all. However, change is multifaceted. In terms of homosexual impulses, the change(s) could involve:
1. Complete change from homosexual to heterosexual inclinations
2. Decline in homosexual inclinations
3. Decline in homosexual inclinations with the experience of some heterosexual inclinations
4. No decline in homosexual inclinations, but abstention from engagement in homosexual practices
The word "cure" is used pejoratively by homosexual advocates in defense of their ideology, but as noted above, that is not necessarily what SOCE involves. Treatment can be administered without a cure taking place.
This is why Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) doesn't include the word "cure" in its diagnoses. There is no cure for alcoholics, and so they don't measure success by ridding people completely of inclinations to become intoxicated. Success to them involves a reduction in the tendencies among alcoholics to become drunk. It would be insulting to the hard work of people who have worked hard to help people with alcohol addictions by making fun of them for suggesting that they had a cure for the people they try to treat.
Also, one statistic I've read didn't even place AA's success rate in the forty percentile range. This is because, like homosexual inclinations, alcoholism can be difficult to treat. This doesn't mean that it's impossible to treat people or that AA is scamming people. It's also wrong to suggest that the people providing therapy to those with homosexual impulses are guilty of snake oil chicanery.
Reparative therapy is a term used pejoratively in the media, and some states have banned it. To be fair, there have been efforts at "therapy" involving electroshock and pornography to change people from gay to straight, but there is also genuine therapeutic treatment. A challenge for the future is going to be convincing people that change is possible with the media misrepresenting SOCE, either by claiming that it's impossible to change or by only mentioning the charlatans. END QUOTE
CERTAINLY PEOPLE AND THE MEDIA HAVE PUT ON A MIND-SET THAT LOOKS AT SEXUALITY TOWARDS THE SAME SEX AS BEING THE WAY YOU ARE MADE; THE WAY YOUR GENES HAVE LINED UP AS YOU WERE CONCEIVED IN THE WOMB. OR THAT YOUR SEX HORMONES WHEN THEY “KICKED IN” AT PUBERTY, KICKED IN, IN A FORMATION THAT LINED UP WITH HOMOSEXUAL OR LESBIAN SEX CODES IN THEM, THAT BRANDED YOU AS EITHER “STRAIGHT” OR “HOMOSEXUAL” OR “LESBIAN.” AND THEN YOU COULD DO NOTHING ABOUT IT—— THAT MANY WANT TO SAY, WAS THE BRAND YOU WERE GIVEN, ACCEPT IT, END OF STORY.
THE BIBLE TEACHES NO SUCH THEOLOGY; AND NOW MANY MANY STUDIES PROVE THIS IDEA OF BEING BORN THAT WAY, TO BE FALSE AND TO BE JUST BAD SCIENCE.
THE READER WHO WROTE WHAT I HAVE POSTED ABOVE, TELLS ME THERE ARE LONG AND DETAILED STUDIES ON THIS MATTER, BEARING OUT WHAT I HAVE BROUGHT YOU, IN JUST TWO RELATIVELY SHORT STUDIES ON THIS TOPIC.